Do your children know how much you think of each other?
Parental unity shows children how to love.
This post introduces Parenting Snapshot an initiative from Australia which explores key issues in family life. Each snapshot is illustrated by a short video in which families share their values and experience. MercatorNet encourages readers to visit raisedtolove.com, the home of Parenting Snapshot, and use the links to social media.
There is nothing better in this world than that man and wife should be one mind.(Homer - Odyssey - 800 BC)
Unity builds love. Parental unity gives consistency in the key messages you give your children. Above all, it means you show your children how to love: by the way you back each other up, by the way you live for your spouse and make service to others the lynchpin of your family life. Try to give constant example of this. Give a living example of round-the-clock-love, love that never gets fed up or runs out of patience. Be on the same page. Share this as a major parenting priority. So much depends on it.
In your own life model the habitual kindness and service that underpins true virtue. Know how to come to decisions that you both are happy with.
Admire each other’s strengths; don’t get fixated on faults. Back up each other’s decisions and listen to each other. Work together as a team. Complement your spouse’s personality. Ensure that calm and common sense prevail… by open and honest communication. It probably does not surprise us that Aristotle, who explained the doctrine of virtue, and who made obvious efforts to raise his son in virtue, was also deeply united to his wife. It must not pass us by that this intellectual colossus was universally regarded as a kind and affectionate man. His will referred to the happy family life he had enjoyed, and in it he provided with solicitous care for his children and servants. He honoured Herpyllis, his wife, for the ‘constant love she has shown me’
- Do your children know how much you think of each other?
- Do you compare notes each night about the children?
- Do you have an agreed signal to avoid bickering in front of the children?
- For dads. What can you do to better support your wife at ‘peak hour’ when there are children to be fed and bathed?
- For mums. Do you show how much you are thinking of dad during the day?
Percy and Florence Arrowsmith made the Guinness Book of Records as the world’s longest married couple, 80 years. When asked what their secret was, Flo said ‘Never go to be without making up’. Percy said the secret could be summed up in two words ‘Yes Dear’. ‘They were still very much in love with each other’, the congregation was told a few weeks later at Percy’s funeral. He died at 105. Flo died two years later at 102.
When we show and receive affection, when we feel secure and at peace, our bodies release the hormone oxytocin. This hormone seems to help with better communication during the inevitable conflicts of a relationship: more eye contact and a readiness to be more open. Less cold shoulder and silent treatment, and more effort to give support pays off.
Well, the US election results are in at MercatorNet and some are quite surprising. You can see from the heading below whom readers would vote for, or not – but don’t jump to conclusions about which party they belong to.
What’s amazing is that readers are almost unanimous on the big questions – about where America is heading and about the country’s leadership. Something to mull over, and comment on if you feel moved to.
I can’t help thinking, though, of all the people in the world who don’t have the luxury of pondering whom to vote for in a free and peaceful country. So many people in Syria, for a start, who don’t know whether they are going to survive the next bombing raid or be able to feed their families. Let’s hear from the American presidential candidates how they are going to stop this shocking war, not how they are going to win it.
|Reader survey: 65% would vote for Trump; 6% for Gary Johnson; 5% for Clinton; 11% will sit it out|
Michael Cook | FEATURES | 19 August 2016
Only 20% supported Trump during the nomination process
|Do your children know how much you think of each other?|
Andrew Mullins | FAMILY EDGE | 19 August 2016
Parental unity shows children how to love.
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Sherif Girgis | ABOVE | 19 August 2016
Acceptance of contraception undercuts Christian sexual ethics.
|The UN admits it played a role in introducing cholera to Haiti|
Rosa Freedman | FEATURES | 19 August 2016
Here is how the victims should be compensated.
|Africa’s potential demographic dividend|
Marcus Roberts | DEMOGRAPHY IS DESTINY | 19 August 2016
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