There are more of them than the media portray.
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This week The New Zealand Herald re-printed a rather depressing article which originally appeared in The Washington Post. In the article, Matthew D. Johnson, a professor of psychology and director of the Marriage and Family Studies Laboratory at Binghamton University, discusses research which apparently conclusively shows that having children is bad for your marriage:
For around 30 years, researchers have studied how having children affects a marriage, and the results are conclusive: The relationship between spouses suffers once kids come along. Comparing couples with and without children, researchers found that the rate of the decline in relationship satisfaction is nearly twice as steep for couples who have children than for childless couples. In the event that a pregnancy is unplanned, the parents experience even greater negative impacts on their relationship.
You can read the full article yourself, but he goes on to link his research to decreasing fertility rates around the world:
These downsides to having children may partly explain why more and more women in the United States and around the world are choosing not to procreate. According to the U.S. Census, the percent of childless American women (ages 15-44) increased a staggering amount in just two generations: from 35 percent in 1976 to 47 percent in 2010.
His long article gives only one ray of light at the end for those of us 'burdened' with children:
Despite the dismal picture of motherhood painted by researchers like me (sorry, Mom), most mothers (and fathers) rate parenting as their greatest joy. Much like childbirth, where nearly all mothers believe the pain and suffering was worth it, most mothers believe the rewards of watching their children grow up are worth the cost to their romantic relationships.
What interested me most about the article was not the research it presented, but the comments by my fellow New Zealanders who obviously don't subscribe to this line of thinking that followed. They were almost all quite outraged. Here is a sample:
Unadulerated rot from start to finish. Children are the joy, the natural outcome and intention of a proper marriage. The challenge of bringing up children is met well by decent reasonably educated people and the rewards for doing so are hard to beat.
These modern connivances, acceptance of unwed mothers, gay "marriages" and the associated degradation of marriage and family values is very much part and parcel of todays social problems.
We have become more undisciplined, free and easy, lacking moral fiber, and it is showing in many ways. Children are the incentive to hold families together and build a decent caring society. If that is not so then it's time to do something about it. - Duediligence - Glen Eden - 10:26 AM Tuesday, 10 May 2016
Judging by the comments (and people generally feel quite strongly to bother writing one), media articles and politicians are not always representative of what families really think and feel. The article starts with the wrong premise by equating pleasure with a deeper satisfaction. Who would deny that bringing up a child is slightly harder than sipping latte in a cafe? The choice to bring up children can bring about very real suffering and heartache. So can falling in love. I wouldn't say that the sipping lattes allows one to die with the deeper satisfaction of a life well lived though
MercatorNet: Inspiring families
Why is Hitler regarded as the incarnation of evil while Stalin, Mao, Pol Pot, Pol Pot, or Kim Il Sung are regarded as slightly comic figures? The authors of the 1997 study, "The Black Book of Communism", estimated that 100 million people died under Marxist regimes, compared to about 25 million under the Nazis. While the exact figures will continue to be debated, there is no doubt that Communism was the more lethal of the two ideologies.
Why, then, are Communist thugs given such soft treatment in the media? This is the question which Christopher Szabo seeks to answer in the article below.
|Why does the media ignore the criminal past of Communism?|
Christopher Szabo | FEATURES | 11 May 2016
The ghastly past of Communist rulers is being swept under the carpet
|Texas, of all places, shows how to lower carbon emissions|
Karl D. Stephan | FEATURES | 11 May 2016
A state full of oil and gas is a wind-power leader.
|Teaching Muslim kids to ward off playground bullies|
Izzy Kalman | FEATURES | 11 May 2016
How to deal with taunting, rumours and violence
Shannon Roberts | DEMOGRAPHY IS DESTINY | 11 May 2016
There are more of them than the media portray.
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